For those of you who don’t know me very well, you probably don’t know this about me. Hey, even if you do know me well, you might not know this. It’s hard for me to talk to anyone about my eating disorder (not clinically diagnosed) – mostly because I feel like a lot of people don’t understand. However, a lot of people have opened up on social media and in blogs and books about their story with restriction/binge eating, and I have learned so much from them. So it’s my hope that by sharing my journey as I overcome this eating disorder (or “disordered eating”), I can help you!
So why post this now? I spent five hours of today listening to a superb webinar hosted by Side Hustle Social Summit. Twenty social media influencers spoke, and one of the consistent messages was “be yourself. Be real, be honest, be open.” And I agree with them. In this world of technology, we can afford to make our lives look perfect. It’s not a problem to take one-hundred pictures and pick the best one to post. We can also adjust the lighting, choose our filters – there’s even a beautification mode on our phone cameras! We get to choose what we tell people about our lives – not that there’s anything wrong with that. However, we tend to post only the things that go right in our lives – we don’t talk about what we are struggling with, we don’t talk about our failures, and we don’t talk about the things we’ve had to overcome. It gives a picture of perfection – after all, no one wants to look bad.
I’ve been guilty of this as well. I only post the recipes I make that are healthy. I don’t say anything about struggling with binge eating – the entire bag of granola or half bag of chocolate chips that I ate – while feeling out of control. I don’t talk about feeling depressed and hating myself for the times I mess up. I don’t talk about my struggle with perfectionism or social anxiety. I don’t say anything about the entire week of workouts I missed – I just post workouts on the days I did workout!
I’m not saying you should post EVERYTHING on social media – discretion is needed, and it is a personal choice how much or how little of your life you choose to share. But I am saying that if you’re going to post on social media, try to be real. And, starting with this blog post, I’m going to try to be more real.